Paul Hegstrom lived the first forty years of his life not understanding the driving force that caused him to self-destruct again and again. He could not understand why his anger would never subside. He could not communicate or identify his feelings. His anger harmed his family, and nothing was ever resolved. He knew something was wrong, but lived his life in denial. Over $20,000 was spent on counseling where he was given “labels,” however, it never got to the root of his problem. This only added to his anger and frustration. His 16-year marriage ended because he could not get the help he needed. The violence continued in subsequent relationships and finally, after being involved in a life-threatening situation that could have meant 15-20 years in prison, he asked for help. It was the hardest thing he ever had to do.
As a result of asking for and receiving help from a pilot program, Paul found some answers for his behavior, but it still wasn’t enough. He began searching for deeper answers. He has spent well over 18,000 hours in research with the goal of developing a curriculum that would offer hope and help to the abuser, the victim, and the families involved in domestic violence. “Learning to Live, Learning to Love” is the result of his research, together with over 36,000 hours spent facilitating groups for the victims and perpetrators of domestic violence.In 1983, Paul and Judy were remarried. They brought healing to their own family as they worked to set up Life Skills International (formerly DVP, Domestic Violence Project), a non-profit domestic violence organization based out of Aurora, Colorado.As a testimony to the program’s effectiveness, their second marriage has been free of emotional and physical abuse since its beginning. All three children and their families live violence free lives. They are a part of the healing that is offered to tens of thousands around the world through the Life Skills program. Life Skills has expanded into an international program with over 100 centers across the United States and around the world.
PAUL’S CREDENTIALS:
•Ph.D. in Pastoral Marriage and Family Therapy, Evangelical Theological Seminary
•M.S. in Pastoral Counseling, Evangelical Theological Seminary
•B.S. in Pastoral Counseling, Evangelical Theological Seminary
•Honorary Doctorate, Doctor of Humane Letters, Evangelical Theological Seminary
•Certified Cognitive Behavioral Therapist and Domestic Violence Counselor
Endorsement, National Board of Cognitive Behavioral Therapists
•Level IV Domestic Violence Certification, National Association of Forensic
Counselors
•Member of AACC (American Association of Christian Counselors)
•Member of CAPS (Christian Association of Psychological Studies)
•18,000 hours of research in Domestic Violence and related issues
•36,000 hours facilitating clinics for victims and perpetrators of abuse
•An internationally recognized authority in attitude and behavioral changes
•Author of Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them, Beacon Hill Press, Spring 1999
•Author of Broken Children, Grown Up Pain, Beacon Hill Press, Summer 2001
•Founder/Developer of the Life Skills International Program
